Last Friday, I praised a client who has changed amazingly in the time I’ve known her. But it’s what she’s done that counts; and this is what I was praising her for.
Then I asked the question I always wonder about when people decide to take a journey of self-discovery. The question is: How did you find the courage to face your problems and begin this journey?
She thought a bit; then replied: I wanted to be honest with myself and I wanted self-understanding. And I think I knew what I wanted to be like, but I didn’t know how to get there. But that’s when I realised I had to confront my past, and figure it out.
This was an impressive answer, (something I have come to expect from this young woman).
But for me, it still didn’t answer the question. So I asked again: But how did you find the courage to do this? Where did that courage come from; the courage that made you want to change?
She replied: I don’t know. I guess I didn’t want to be what I was becoming, and deep-down I wanted to be successful. But there’s no shortcut in life. To be successful, you have to be courageous and honest with yourself. It was really like this – success means you have to face your fears.
But then this raises the question - why do some people face their fears, and others not? The client I was praising had a really tough start in life, and then lots more adversity besides. So what makes her different? What gives her the courage to confront all of this?